One of the common things that gets debated when it comes to pornography use is its “addictive” nature. Is porn really addictive in the clinical sense of the word? Does porn really damage or change the user’s brain or is that a claim of weak science? Admittedly the scientific data on porn or sex addiction is… Read more »
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Back in March of 2013, we at XXXchurch.com decided to do a lil’ something called the Porn Kills Tour. It was simple. Get me and two other great talents (Levi The Poet and Jefferson Bethke), stuff us in a hearse, and hit 5 stops where we would let people know a simple message – PORN… Read more »
My family banned me from watching 19 Kids and Counting with them. Apparently, every time the show was on and I was in the room, I would make a statement and interrupt their TV experience. I had concerns. My concern was with the way it portrays Christians, and I just don’t see this family as… Read more »
Most of you who know me know I am a sucker for bad TV, TMZ, and yes, ESPN. I even got sucked into the show True Tori earlier this year and wrote a blog about it here. This question in the title of this blog is a tough one. I think every marriage is different,… Read more »
It’s 7PM and there you are sitting in front of your computer screen. You look at the clock and wonder how the hell you wasted 3 hours of your day looking at porn. You think, “How could I let this happen again … especially when I want to stop so bad!” Ever been there? I… Read more »
When the movie 50 Shades of Grey was released in February it set an all time record for box office sales for that month. Because the movie (and book series) deals with the topic of sex we of course felt that it was our responsibility to offer some healthy discussion around this subject. Especially since 50… Read more »
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For some reason, we live in a world where it seems like the stereotype for married people and sex is that men need it and women don’t want to cough it up. I don’t know how that happened, but in my marriage, sex is a two-way street. It takes both of you to make it… Read more »
Have you ever had an article or blog post that stopped and made you think … “Hmmm, isn’t there a bigger issue or question here?” I read a great article in USA Today on the “right” to wear yoga pants. Mind you the article was specifically dealing with the rights of a female middle schooler. Anyway,… Read more »
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There are times when peer pressure rotates around having sex. Sometimes it comes from friends, other times from your boyfriend or a guy you fancy who just approached you. While you cannot run forever, you may identify strategies to help deal with the pressure to have sex. Even as an adult, peer pressure can be devastating especially when that is the main objective for your partner or your friends. Sometimes, you may end up losing your man in the event you do not circum to his wishes. In other circumstances, guys also experience pressure to have sex with a certain girl by being pushed with friends. The following tips will help you deal with the pressure.
Keep in mind that sex will not make someone fall in love with you
Many a times, individuals tend to translate sex and love as the same thing. This is not close to any truth. As much as sex is an intimate gesture, it does not guarantee love. If you are feeling pressured because your partner is threatening to walk out on you, remember that love has no relation with sex. If you are not thinking of sex personally, it is important that you do not do it for anyone else. It is not about being self-centered but ensuring that the individual in question should wait for both of you to be ready for the experience.
It is okay to say NO
Even as much as you would love to fit in and stop the finger pointing, it pays to say NO. This applies more so to teens. Just because they think everyone is doing it, they also want to get on the high horse. First, not everyone is doing it. They are only saying it to divert attention from the entire ordeal as a way of escaping the pressure. Anyone who cares about you will understand.
It is about you and no one else
Pressure comes as a result of other people’s involvement in your business. While majority will win, sex is a personal matter that requires personal decision-making. Your partner or friends are important to you but if the matter in question draws doubt to you, it is best you follow your heart.
Pressure to have sex can be devastating but rather than falling into the trap, it is best that you listen to yourself first. You know what is best for you. While you can listen to everyone talking about it, be cautious about what you hear not to react to exaggerations that were never in existence. Be confident and you will be able to deal with the pressure to have sex.
As I’ve interacted with couples from all over the world, I’ve found that many of the issues that ultimately lead to infidelity and divorce creep in unintentionally. People don’t usually set out to sabotage their marriage and wind up in divorce court, but small choices can ultimately lead to big disasters. (Tweet This!) Subtle poor… Read more »